In marriages we all have our ups downs, and sadly sometimes those downs can’t be fixed. Divorce is very possible especially when younger people get married quickly. Sometimes divorces are mutual, sometimes they are one sided. Either way there are a lot of emotional decisions that need to be made and considered when filing for divorce. There are many ways to cope with these hard decisions and the overall fact that your marriage is over. For example, give yourself permission to cry, this is a hard enough time without you having to hide your feelings. Secondly, remind yourself why you’re getting divorced, your exes worst qualities will give you the confidence boost to keep moving forward with the divorce process.
After the divorce is over you need to realize you will have different feelings about what just happened. For some they feel very happy that the divorce is over and they can move on with their lives. For others, they feel very sad and in denial that a piece of their lives is gone forever. Just remember to give yourself time to grieve. Divorce is a big hard decision and it will feel strange for a while. Don’t punish yourself either, you deserve to be happy again and when the time is right for you it will happen.
Some ways to cope with the after divorce feeling are to find a new hobby, something you’ve never done with your ex. Go on vacation or just start exploring new areas of where you live, give yourself new memories. For the days that you just want to stay in bed, curl up with a good book or a sappy movie, it’s ok to cry! Just keep reminding yourself that you made this decision for a reason and in time you’ll feel better and ready to move on completely.
By Daron Allen, Paralegal